The Babies In Us All
Updated:07:30 PM ET November 4, 2007
By Anjori Sinha

Most people go through a phase of rebellion with their parents. Things are said and done, that quite frankly hurt one another. It is a tough time for both parties. One says, "I want to be free." They express desire for their independence. If by any chance they are unhappy with their social status, which is true in most cases. The parents are blamed for this and all other shortcomings.

The parents on the other side, find it hard to let go. After all, they have brought these youngsters up, at least until now. The parents have been with their kids through thick and thin. In most cases, parents sacrifice their own happiness and desires to keep their kids happy and healthy. Again, in most cases (I throw this caveat because it is definitely not true among ALL parents) the parents' lives start revolving around their kids. Decisions are made regarding work, vacations, homes, finances, all in favor of the child(ren)'s happiness.

Of course, no youngster at time of rebellion will think about these sacrifices, nor will they bring it up if it does cross their minds. Do you think it likely that these kids will admit to sacrifices made upon their behalf when they are fighting for freedom? Nope. No one admits to something that will cause their battle to waver.

So what do the results announce? Youngsters gain freedom, parents are silenced, sacrificing once again, their hold for the kid's happiness. Justice? Of course not! But that is what happens in most cases. Sure there are extremes taken to gain a foot up, but in the end, most kids gain victory.

But all this was background knowledge to the point I'm making. The real comedy, if you can call it that, comes during and after "War". Suppose the child gets sick. God forbid, not terribly sick, just, you know, seasonal flu or cold. Here comes the dilemma. Do the kids wave their flag of defeat, or feel miserable and lonely? In plain English: do they go to their parents for help and comfort, or do they try to hide their sickness and fight it alone? If they choose, going to the parents, in most cases, they will be comforted by the parents' love and medicines for a quick recovery. However, both sides, now know that the independence being fought for is not self sufficient. If they choose the later option of sticking it through it without help, things are just not in their favor. Parents will find out about the illness one way or another. And lets face it you can't recover easily without your parents love and help. One day defeat must be declared.

Truth of the matter is, parents always win, one way or another. Why? Because no matter when this battle arises, no kid wants to be removed from their parents umbrella completely. They just want to open their own umbrella, under their parent's. The kid just wants to learn and grow by their own experiences. Parents beware, your kids will rebel. The best thing to do is give them their umbrella but make sure they open it under yours. One day they will tilt their umbrella to let you in and ask for your advice, and perhaps actually take the advice. This way you can ensure, parents "always" win. ~*~